Keep your marriage strong. Build an unstoppable marriage, with marriage advice that’s simple and works.

Most marriages don’t explode in one big divorce.

They fall apart quietly.
They crumble slowly.

Research from the American Psychological Association shows that small neglects—not big events—are often what cause marriages to unravel.

Through small moments missed.
Through days when you stop looking at each other.
Through nights when you scroll on that damn smartphone instead of talking.

How do I know?

Catherine and I have been at this for over 23 years.
It’s not luck.
It’s not because we’re “perfectly compatible.”
It’s because we choose to show up for each other.
Every. Single. Day.

If you want a marriage that thrives, not just survives, here are 5 things you need to know:

1. Connection Isn’t Convenient. It’s Built.

You’re not going to “find” time to connect.
You have to make it.
Carve out 15 minutes a day and defend it like your life depends on it.
Because it does — at least the life you want with your partner.

Catherine and I have coffee together every morning.
It’s not negotiable.
Even if we’re tired.
Even if the world’s on fire (like the kids doing the kid thing), we close our bedroom door and have our coffee.
Yes, and even if we have to wake up 30 minutes earlier.

Those moments don’t feel “epic.”
They feel normal.
But normal moments build unstoppable marriages.

2. If You’re Bored, You’re in Danger

A boring marriage isn’t safe.
It’s a ticking bomb.

You don’t have to climb Mount Everest together.
You just have to do something new sometimes.

Catherine and I have tried paddleboarding at sunrise, taking weird online classes, and yes, even art and cooking (we sucked, but we laughed our faces off anyway).

It’s not about being good.
It’s about remembering that you’re teammates.
That you still surprise each other.
That life together is still an adventure.

If you’re bored, do something dumb and new together.
It’ll save you.

3. Gratitude Is More Powerful Than Counselling

You want to shock your marriage back to life?
Start saying real thank-yous.

NOT—”Thanks for doing the dishes.”
Real ones.

Like:
➡️ “You make this house feel like home.”
➡️ “I don’t say it enough, but you being here makes everything better.”
➡️ “Watching you be you is one of the best parts of my life.”

CPR (cardiopulmonary resuscitation) is what you do to bring someone back to life when their heart stops.

Gratitude works the same way for a marriage that’s starting to flatline emotionally.

It revives love, connection, and trust before it’s too late.

Gratitude isn’t cheesy.
It’s CPR for your relationship.

4. Don’t Let Routines Kill You

After years together, routines become invisible walls.
You stop seeing each other.
You just live side-by-side.

If you want to keep your marriage alive, you have to break the script.

➡️ Try a new restaurant.
➡️ Go somewhere you’ve never been.
➡️ Dance in the kitchen at 7am for no reason.

Don’t wait until you’re “in trouble” to start living again.
By then, it might be too late.

5. Grow or Die — Pick One

A marriage that doesn’t grow dies.
Slowly. Quietly. Painfully.

You need to grow together and individually.

Try things that scare you.
Talk about dreams that feel too big.
Stretch yourself — and cheer when they stretch too.

Growth isn’t just sexy.
It’s survival. It’s how you thrive.

Catherine and I have failed at things together.
We’ve tried. We’ve sucked. We’ve learned.
And every time, our roots go deeper.

The Bottom Line:

Love isn’t enough.
Time isn’t enough.
Good intentions aren’t enough.

Action is everything.

You don’t get an unbreakable marriage by accident.
You build it with a 100X million small decisions:
Choosing to listen.
Choosing to show up.
Choosing to fight for it when it’s easier to coast.

Start today.
Not with a big speech.
Not with a grand gesture.

Start with 15 minutes, a small adventure, or one real thank-you.

Stack those moments.
Stack them until your marriage is so strong, it scares the storms away.